Miss Saigon and “Me So Horny” by 2 Live Crew fed into Asian fetish and made Chinese brides popular among Western guys looking to make their sex fantasies come true. But should you be dating a Chinese woman? Is a Chinese woman good in bed, like advertised? Let’s go over stereotypes and misconceptions to check your expectations and avoid disappointment.
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Are Chinese women good in bed? Myth vs. reality
Fetishizing Asian women leads to a weird dichotomy when it comes to how Western guys perceive their sexuality. On the one hand, Chinese girls are portrayed as docile, submissive, and inexperienced lovers who don’t talk back. On the other hand, they are oversexualized sex workers out for money. Here are a few myths you need to let go of:
- Myth: Chinese girls are submissive lovers and don’t take initiative.
✅ Reality: That may have been true fifty years ago, but modern-day Chinese women can be just as assertive in bed as they are in other areas of life.
- Myth: Chinese girls are nymphomaniacs and need sex twice a day.
✅ Reality: Sexual needs vary, but surveys show that most Chinese girls with regular partners have sex up to three times per week. Over half of them haven’t had sex in at least a month.
- Myth: Chinese girls only have sex after marriage.
✅ Reality: They do tend to start sexual relationships pretty late (between 19 and 22), but marriage is no longer requisite for intimacy. Most Chinese guys and girls consider premarital sex a norm, even if their parents don’t agree.
- Myth: You can buy sex with a Chinese woman if you have enough money.
✅ Reality: Chinese men pay for sex more often (around 10% on average), but Chinese women also resort to paying for sex (under 5%) or providing material benefits for sex. So, you cannot assume every Chinese girl you meet is easy or cheap.
As you can see, American assumptions about sex with Chinese women are nothing but dated stereotypes.
First-hand accounts
Are Chinese women good in bed? Here are a couple of stories I heard from guys who dated Chinese girls.
“It was sex on demand. She thought that Western guys were more open-minded, so she felt more confident about living out her fantasies. We tried lots of things, and she helped me discover a couple of new kinks. It’s a pity our relationship didn’t work out in the long run because she was just too clingy and jealous. I’m still looking for a Chinese girlfriend because the sex was just that good.”
“I’m always the one to initiate sex, and it’s started to bother me. It looks like she enjoys whatever we do together, but she never starts things between us. Besides, she feels uncomfortable discussing new things we could try. I’d love to try oral or anal with her, but I’m afraid to start the conversation because I think it could scare her off.”
Physical intimacy in Chinese сulture
For thousands of years, the Chinese considered sex as a means of procreation and tried to separate physical intimacy from pleasure. Although the communist rule broadened women’s rights and freedoms, they are still less comfortable with public displays of affection than Western girls. At the same time, you can hold hands, hug, and even kiss in public as long as your PDA isn’t explicit.
Overall, how comfortable a Chinese girl is with physical displays of affection depends on her upbringing and personality. Those who grow up in middle-class families with overworked parents are usually more reserved and less used to casual touches. On the other hand, Westernized Chinese girls may be more generous with physical affection.
Pro tips on how to get a Chinese woman into bed
Premarital sex is no longer a taboo in China, but most Chinese women still expect to be in a serious relationship before getting intimate. However, there are some tricks that can get you into their pants faster:
- If you want casual hookups, check out the club scene. That’s where you’ll find women open to sex with no strings attached.
- Don’t wait for Chinese girls to initiate sex. Most will wait for you to start things, especially in the early days of your relationship.
- Get her excited before you get to the bedroom. Like most women, Chinese girls may take a while to warm up to the main event, but affection and romance can get them into the right frame of mind to enjoy sex.
- Suggest experimentation, but be subtle. Chinese may be blunt, but they are also masters of euphemisms, especially regarding intimacy.
- Take care of protection on your end. Sex education in China is severely lacking, so young, inexperienced partners may not be aware of all the necessary precautions.
This is by no means an instruction manual on how to get any Chinese woman into your bed. Use these tips to get an edge, but tailor your advances to your partner for best results.
Key takeaways
So, are Chinese women good lovers? That depends on your choice of a lover, your compatibility, and a million other things, just like in any relationship. I suggest you get rid of oversexualized stereotypes and manage your expectations. An intimate relationship with a Chinese lover can be exciting and fulfilling, but you need to work on it together.
